Wedding of the Red Dao
In the Dao Do community, whether it is love match or an arranged marriage, the parents must ask a shaman to compare the age of the boy and girl. If their ages do not match, they can’t get married. If the shaman says they can become husband and wife, both families prepare for a wedding. “The boy’s family visits the girl’s family for the proposal, engagement, and wedding ceremonies.They bring with them offerings such as chicken, pork, and some money,” said Dang Cha Chiu of Ham Yen district. At the first meeting the boy’s family designates a matchmaker to represent them to talk with the girl’s family. The matchmaker should be a respectable and well-spoken person and have a profound knowledge of the Dao customs and traditions. If the girl’s family agrees, the matchmaker tells the groom’s family to organize an engagement ceremony. They will bring an offering to th...